[Music] the single most important thing in your life is your dream it’s your dream it’s what you dream about if you see it you can achieve it you if you don’t have visions you can’t make it in this world you need something to sustain yourself through that it’s not optional because the the price of existence is so high that without that sustaining meaning it it corrupts you it embitters you and and once you’re embittered things go downhill rapidly you get vengeful and and you get angry and and you get destructive and then there’s really no limit to that and i’ve been suggesting to people that the sustaining meaning that they can find in their life isn’t to be found through happiness let’s say because happiness doesn’t work when you’re not happy when when when things have gone badly for you for for even for accidental reasons but you can find sustaining meaning and responsibility because god sent you here and no human being came to this planet empty no matter what you’ve done if it didn’t kill you there’s more left turn your wounds into wisdom you will be wounded many times in your life you’ll make mistakes some people will call them failures but i have learned that failure is really god’s way of saying excuse me you’re moving in the wrong direction a fixed mindset is when you believe your talent and intelligence are fixed traits a growth mindset is when you believe your talent and intelligence are malleable traits that you can actually change them you can improve them you can get better over time smarter over time more competent over time and to do that you just need to reframe the failure as a learning experience so that’s one of the big ones people that can really fail without losing their enthusiasm [Music] you’ve got to stop asking how little you can get away with and start asking one of the most powerful questions in the universe which is how much can you bear you came here loaded and you came here to make a deposit and deposit you will make and if you don’t make you are a generational thief because you stole from the next generation the next generation supposed to benefit from what you came to deliver and if you settle down on what you’ve done and not do what you could do then you robbed them of what you came to leave for them to enjoy and that is why you should never allow what you’ve done to stop you from doing what you could do take responsibility for yourself and that works and then if you do that properly you can take responsibility for your family and then if you do that properly you can take responsibility for your community and you can continue to burden yourself voluntarily let’s say with with a greater and greater range of existential challenges and all that that does is make more and more and more of you and that works as an antidote to the catastrophe of life [Music] create the highest grandest vision possible for your life because you become what you believe when you wake up in the morning and your life means something to somebody other than you that you have a purpose if you don’t go do the things that you’re going to do people’s lives will suffer and i think that that kind of purpose that like to live in service not to you but to live in service to humanity to live in service to your family to live in service to your church to your city to your country to the world living in service is that i feel like that is the purest form of joy [Music] woe is me it’s not my fault it was so and so they did it to me i want you to stop that immediately remind yourself that you own your life remind yourself of cause and effect remind yourself that you are in control you could make a different decision and you could get a different outcome because you can’t control the world you can’t control other people you can only control yourself between that stimulus and that response is your ability to make a different choice [Music] if you can be still long enough in in all of your endeavors the good times the hard times to connect yourself to the source i call it god you can call it whatever you want to the force nature allah the power if you can connect yourself to the source and allow the energy that is your personality your life force to be connected to the greater force anything is possible for you i’m talking about being honest with yourself about what you’re doing about how you’ve performed about whether or not you’re being weak in something because if you’re being weak the only problem with that is ignoring it is pretending like it’s okay is not holding yourself to a standard it’s going to happen from time to time but if you’re not honest with yourself about where you are if you’re not having that hard direct talk then you’re never going to make progress [Music] you got to make a decision listen to me you got to make a decision what’s the decision what’s the thing you came here for now we’re at the moment the clock is ticking people say all the time hey life is short let me tell you something life can be long you bury your dreams you quit this life gets long see time’s relative two minutes of you being with your sweetie doing whatever you like to do with them that can go by quick right what about the last two minutes on a treadmill does that not seem like it goes by for like four hours right so if you’re enjoying it it’s short if it’s painful it’s long life can be long when you lose your job when someone you thought you’d be with for the rest of your life say no we can’t do this no more that’s when you have to stand that’s when you have to begin to live this faith and that’s not on you that’s when you got to call on something how do you let that mind be in you you got to be out of your mind to believe in spite of these numbers you can still make it in spite of the pain you’re feeling you can still come back again i believe it [Music] so [Music] you